But what thinking really mean? Mentality: Is a fixed mental attitude It is an inclination to do something habitually It is formed as a result of experience, education and / or damage Thoughts and beliefs, feelings and emotions and habits included It incorporates your beliefs about yourself and how you can quickly and successfully deal with certain experiences It determines how you will interpret and respond to situations The vicious circle of beliefs lead to not only habits but also something I like to describe as “feeders to gain weight.
“His weight gain feeders are just beliefs and life choices. His beliefs have led to some decisions and have certain expectations in life. The options and confirm expectations and maintain their beliefs. Whenever we settle for what you believe we deserve.
For example, if the abuse has led him to believe that you are unworthy of love, this is reflected in the type of romantic relationship you choose.
You are more likely to accept being neglected or abused, because, as you think you are not worthy of love, that do not have expectations of a relationship. Staying in an abusive relationship will keep your belief, as the abuse that make constantly feel unworthy of love. If you’ve always found comfort in food abuse, this habit is perpetuated because of this abusive relationship you are stuck in Examples of weight gain feeders:
His past and current life choices: bad / abusive romantic relationship, boring work, obsession, fear of diets being yourself, feeling like a victim, self-imposed isolation, shyness, embarrassment of being different, self- hatred, etc. Expectations for the future: No hope for a fulfilling romantic relationship, there is no hope of finding a job entertaining no hope of being truly, madly, deeply happy, etc.